Honeymooners!!!! Here are some fun, creative, things to do during your first week of marriage! I think so often couples get so caught up in preparing and planning for their wedding, that they forget the week long vacation that awaits them after their wedding night! Don’t worry, we got you covered with 15 different ideas to get the most our of your honeymoon!
1. Write each other letters to be read on your one-year anniversary
Jeremy and I have a thing for letters. Probably because we wrote so many of them when we were dating long distance for three years…. We loved the idea of continuing to write letters to each other in marriage. Out of a desire to articulate and record our love, we decided to write each other letters to be read on our one-year anniversary. On the last day of our honeymoon, we sat on the beach and put our memories to paper, remaindering our future selves of all the sweet moments and emotions. Reading these letters on our one-year anniversary was maybe one of my favorite things Jer and I have ever done in our marriage. It was such a special time of reminiscing, encouragement, and a deepening of our love. We decided to keep the tradition going, so we wrote each other letters on our one-year anniversary, to be read on our two-year anniversary! Can’t wait to read them next week;)
2. Read your vows during sex
If you missed my blog post from last week (The Most Intimate Thing You’ll Ever Do)…. you can read all about this wild and erotic idea >>HERE<< Don’t ask too many questions, just try it;) It just might be one of the most intimate things you’ll ever do. You’ll laugh, maybe cry, and surely remember it forever.
3. Read a book together
Jeremy and I committed to reading, “A Severe Mercy” together every year of our marriage. We actually started this before we were married, and Jeremy has been reading this book every year for 5 years now… When we started dating, I committed to joining him in this tradition – little did I know, for the rest of our lives.
4. Put your phones on airplane mode
Ok, so you’re probably in some beautiful exotic place, likely on your first vacation without your biological families, and probably your first vacation just the two of you! I know how tempting it is to want to share your experiences and what you are doing on Snapchat, Facebook and Instagram, but try not to be so consumed by this your entire honeymoon. I’ve watched some of my friends Snapchatting every single thing they do on their honeymoon and it makes me sad. Put your phones down!!! Or at least set aside a time once a day to snap and share a moment or two, but make majority of the moments yours to LIVE, not just capture… This is also why bringing a camera (not a phone) is essential! Get one of those old disposable ones or pick up one of our favorite cameras >>HERE<<
5. Make love… a lot;)
This one’s pretty obvious… Have a lot of spontaneous romantic sex, but also, set aside a time or two to really learn each other. Before our honeymoon, I had a friend tell me, “There’s romantic sex, and then there’s educational sex… the key is to have both on your honeymoon.” Her advice was that Jer and I have sex a few times purely as a time to explore, communicate, and learn. I soon found out that it’s easy to get so caught up in the moment and pleasing each other… If we hadn’t taken her advice, Jer and I probably would have taken a lot longer to figure out how to actually please each other and have a thriving sex life. And this advice has been something that has stuck with us. From time to time, we still have “educational sex.” Talking your way through sex will give you an opportunity to learn each other; what your comfortable with, what feels good, what you hope he/she will do, etc. Try it a time or two, it might be awkward, but it will set you up for success in the long run!
Our weekly Navigator’s Council was a routine that we started on our honeymoon, and we consider it the single most influential and transforming routine in our marriage (You can read more about our Navigators Council / Our 6 Questions >>HERE<<). Basically, each week we ask each other six (of the same) questions, and record our answers in a journal. The questions are simple, but paramount for hedging against conflict, and fostering intimacy in our marriage. Although the purpose of the journal is to cultivate consistent communication on important matters each week, it’s incredible to see how effective this practice has been for our marriage. As we’ve reflected on old entries, we smile at what this mere journal has prevented us from, and the standard it has held us to. We are working HARDDDD on making Navigator’s Council Journals for all of you!!! So stay tuned… very soon you’ll be able to get your own!!!
7. Talk about when/how you will spend time with the Lord
I think a lot of wives go into marriage with the expectation that all of the sudden all of their time in the word will now be spent with their husband. I think women like the idea of their husbands doing devotionals with them or reading scripture together every day… but the reality is, you gotta do what works for you. Jer and I established that we would each spend alone time in the word each day rather then reading and reflecting together. We have found it works much better for us to read/reflect separately, and the come together to pray or discuss certain things we are learning, or that the Lord is pressing on our hearts. When it comes to the question of reading/studying together or alone, I think you just need to be honest with each other and figure our what works best for you.
8. Set a date night
Set a date night Commit to ONE night a week that you will establish as your “date night.” Don’t compromise on this. Seriously, try as best you can to commit to it no matter what. Jer and I know a couple who has only missed 2 date nights in their entire 19 years of marriage (and they have 4 kids)… One of those nights was because their daughter had cancer, and the other was a kid having a really hard night and they both felt it best to stay in and be with him. I wish Jer and I could say we have committed to the same date night every week in our two years of marriage, but our reality is that our schedule is are in such a flux, that our date night is constantly changing. However, we try to make it a priority to spend one night a week together playing, laughing, enjoying each other, and not talking about money, work, and big decisions.
9. Discuss any traditions you want to start
This is SO FUN to talk about! Talk about what you want to do on your anniversaries, Birthday, Christmas, Valentine’s Day etc. Come up with fun ideas for traditions to start as a new family!
10. Establish guidelines for financial decisions
Talk about what you spend your money on, what you want to save it for, and what you want to give it to. Jer and I decided that we wanted to spend our money on/save it for going on weekend trips and exploring/adventuring together – as opposed to movies, nice dinners, nice furniture or cable subscriptions. We also talked about where we wanted to give our money. Jer has a huge heart for the homeless, and I have a huge heart for the ministry of Young Life, so we came up with creative and consistent ways to give to both, as well as our church. We also set boundaries for our daily spending. For example, Jer and I always call each other or check in before purchasing anything over $100.
11. Wear a new perfume/cologne
Wear a new perfume/cologne that will forever remind you of your honeymoon. I bought a new perfume for my wedding (something I tell ALL brides they NEED to do) that I wore every day on our honeymoon. Jer did the same. Sense of smell can trigger stronger memories than any of our other senses! To this day every time Jer smells me wearing my wedding/honeymoon perfume he smiles, and I do the same.
12. Take lots of photos
Don’t forget to capture the candid moments too! On the plane together, chilling in your room, views from the beach/your room, etc. We took tons of photos and were so glad to have our 35mm film camera that forced us to capture the moments in one simple shot that we wouldn’t see until we developed our film;) This is so much more freeing that the perfect-shot-syndrome that a digital camera or your phone promotes.
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13. Surprise him with new lingerie each night
Even if it’s just a new pair of underwear! It’s so fun to reveal something new each night. You will feel sexy, and he will love it!
14. Take a mini boudoir shoot
Just for fun, have your hubby snap some photos of you in your new lingerie, or take a few photos cuddling in bed! Put these in a secret photo album that both of you can refer back to decades later!
15. Make a playlist
Like scent, songs have a way of triggering memories and flooding our minds with nostalgia. Make a playlist that you can listen to while you travel to your honeymoon, in your room, at the beach etc. Whenever you hear one of those songs play in the future it will take you back to your honeymoon.