Intro: When we moved to Bend, Oregon we were unsure about what type of community we would find. However, God definitely answered our prayers and within a week, we met Matt and Lisa Jacobson (the couple in the photo above). These two have been very influential in the growth of our marriage throughput the past 8 months. Matt and Lisa still avidly pursue each other every day, and they are still so obviously in love, 8 kids and 24 years later. Their marriage is a beautiful thing to watch. Matt is the pastor of our house church and runs a blog about marriage, parenting, church and culture over at matthewljacobson.com. Lisa runs a blog called Club31women – a passion for husband, home and family. Matt and Lisa are passionate about biblical marriages and have helped us realize what it means for Jeremy to lead as a husband, and what it means for me to follow as a wife. We are so thankful for the wisdom, expierence and forsight these two have been pooring into us since we landed here in Bend. The Jacobson’s hold us accountable to diving into the Scriptures, and discovering what God’s heart is for marriage. They embody #Beating50Percent completely and we are honored to know them, and share their words of wisdom on this blog! Here are 22 Marriage Tips Every Newlywed Wife Should Know, written by Lisa Jacobson. If you are newlywed wife, or soon to be wife, you don’t wanna miss this!
22 Marriage Tips Every Newlywed Wife Should Know
I couldn’t help loving the way he looked at her.
With so much admiration and tenderness in his eyes.
She was talking to me. But she was the only one he could see.
They hadn’t been married for very long, these two. Less than a year.
But, clearly, they were off to a great start.
And I don’t just mean they were starry-eyed for one another – although there was plenty of that going on – but how obvious it was that their two hearts were one. Close, kind, and passionate. Two lovers married for life.
Later, when there was a lull in the conversation, I casually asked how it was going.
You know, that whole first-year-of-marriage thing.
He seemed almost sheepish in his answer. “Yeah, I’m not sure. Everyone said it would be so hard and yet…it’s been rather wonderful.”
He said it as if it was something for which he should apologize. Almost as if they’d done something wrong – instead of something good and right.
And that’s when I saw the way she was looking at him too.
With that strong love and respect for him beaming across her beautiful face.
And I thought back to our own newlywed years – my guy and me – nearly 24 years ago.
And I thought about all the things that I wish someone would have told me.
About how to be the kind of wife I wanted to be.
And how to have the kind of marriage I wanted to have.
Close, kind, and passionate.
Two lovers married for life.
Because everyone assumes that you probably know these things right from the outset. Or, if you don’t know, that you’ll figure it out sooner or later as you go along.
But what if it isn’t like that?
And you really don’t know.
Or you don’t want to wait to “figure it out” but want the best beginning possible?
If so, then I’d say here are the marriage tips that every wife – whether newlywed or not – will want to know.
22 Marriage Tips Every Newlywed Wife Should Know
1. Pray for him every day. Faithfully. What better gift than to offer up a prayer for him? Ask God to bless him, protect him, and work in his life.
2. Focus on those things which are true, pure, and lovely. (Phil. 4:8) Keep the spotlight on all that is good and right in him – and in your relationship.
3. Speak kindly to him. Gracious words are sweet to the soul (Prov. 16:24).
4. Let the little irritations go. Is it really worth bothering about? Most of the time – not…
5. Go to the Word of God for the best marriage counseling. You can get good advice from others, but there’s no replacing the loving, powerful Truth to be found in Scripture.
6. Cultivate your friendship. Marriage isn’t merely a business deal.
7. Never give up on each other. People go through difficult seasons and we get to persevere through them. Cling to each other in the hard times.
8. Make friends with people who will encourage your marriage. Surround yourself with those who will support and pray for you both as you grow together.
9. And avoid those who pull against you. If they were “friends,” I’d ditch them altogether. (Real friends are going to cheer you both on). It’s harder with extended family members, but I’d dodge those as much as possible too.
10. Confess your sins to one another. Doesn’t help to smooth it over; instead, repent and ask forgiveness. (James 5:16)
11. And then forgive freely. (Col. 3:13)
12. Be patient with him. Love is long-suffering, remember? (I Cor. 13:4)
13. Leave off with the complaining. It only drags the both of you down (Phil. 2:14).
14. Show him respect. It’s in the Bible. And it’s what he needs.(Col. 3:18).
15. Never stop kissing. No matter how old you grow. My husband’s 80-year-old parents continued to kiss each other goodbye – on the lips!
16. Keep the home fires burning. Intimacy is still important. Yes, even long after the honeymoon.
17. Stand by your man. You’ll probably find loyalty toward the top of his list.
18. Make loving him your priority. Over your job, your friends, your extended family. Yes, even over your children.
19. Give him – and yourself – room to grow. I know that we’re not done growing yet, and I’m guessing you two aren’t either.
20. Express appreciation for the man that he is. Be an encouraging voice in that otherwise thankless world he lives in.
21. Decide you’re going to stick together. With God’s help, you’re going to stay together throughout the years. No matter what. (Mark 10:9)
22. Put on love. Above all things. (Col. 3:14)
And in case you’re wondering if these things actually work? I can tell you that they do.
I know because in many ways we’re still newlyweds.
Nearly 24 years later.
Two lovers truly married for life.
Rich blessings on you and your marriage,
Lisa Jacobson – club31women.com
Check out Matt and Lisa’s book: “100 Day Love Challenge”
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