Someone once told me, “The true test of your love for someone, is if you pray for them.”
Wives, do you pray for your husband daily??
Prayer is one of the best ways you can love your husband and one of the best ways you can protect your marriage. Prayer is the thing that has the most power to transform your marriage and “fix the broken pieces.”
To the wives, turn up the volume for this one: Be more willing to pray than you are to speak!
I think we all need to hear this sometimes… it’s not your job to fix your husband. Talking his ear off about what he should do, and how he should be, is not an effective and Christlike role. We are called to pray fervently for our husbands. James 5:15 says, “The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” Your prayers are far more powerful than your words. I want to encourage wives to be their husband’s prayer warriors. You know your husband better than anyone, so you are most equipped to pray fervently for them!
As I pray for Jeremy, I have found myself circling in prayer over 9 key things: faith, wisdom, strength, confidence, protection, leadership, decisions, peace, and his calling/mission. As you read this blog post, my hope is that you could use these prayers as an example for how to pray for your husband. As you read/pray them, insert your husband’s name where I have written, “Jeremy.” Maybe you even copy and paste these prayers and rewrite them to reflect your husband’s name – print them out and put them in a place where you can read/pray them daily!
Let’s enter the battlefield in prayer for our husbands….
Lord, I pray for Jeremy’s relationship with you. Increase his faith, as he grows and matures into the man You created him to be. May his knowledge of Your truths mature, his intimacy with You deepen, and his love for You abound. Each morning, may he look to You as the author of his life and ask: “Lord what do You have for me today?” Give him the discipline and desire to know Your truths, to seek Your will, and to walk in joyful obedience. As he hears Your words, may he put them into practice, so that his faith would multiply (Romans 10:7). May he live by faith, fixing his eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. (2 Corinthians 4:18). I pray the prayer of Jabez of Jeremy, that you would “bless and enlarge his borders [property], and that Your hand would be with him, and You would keep him from evil so that it does not hurt him!” (1 Chronicles 4:10). Lord, You granted this prayer to Jabez, and I pray believing that You can answer it for Jeremy as well. Increase his boundaries and platform to share Your truth, with love.
Father God, You say in your word “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him” (James 1:5). I pray that Jeremy would boldly ask for wisdom and that he would be a good steward of the insight You entrust to him. Reveal to Jeremy what is good, true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, and worthy of praise (Philippians 4:8). May his wisdom increase as he comes to know and love You more. And this I pray, that Jeremy’s love would “abound more and more, displaying itself in greater depth, in real knowledge and in practical insight, so that he would learn to recognize and treasure what is excellent [identifying the best, and distinguishing moral differences]” (Philippians 1:9-10). May he have wise council that speaks truth into his life and words of correction when needed. I pray for Jeremy’s mentors, and the people he looks to as Godly examples, that they would have discernment in what they share with Jeremy, and how they pray for him (Proverbs 13:20). Holy Spirit, inspire Jeremy’s reading of Your Word, just as you have inspired the writing of it! Fill his mind with Your thoughts, may he bear your image, and may his life be marked by Your ways. Convert his head knowledge into heart knowledge. Thank you for his desire to know You more, and thank you for the wisdom You have already given him. As he matures in knowledge and understanding, give him discernment for how to live out Your teachings, and how to share them with others.
Risen King! You are the source of Jeremy’s strength. You fill him with grace sufficient for his daily challenges. Give him endurance and perseverance to “run on wings like eagles, to walk and not be weary, and to run and not grow faint” (Isaiah 40:31). Multiply his energy, and give him an eagerness to be obedient and faithful – even when it’s hard, and even when it’s a hassle. May he rely on You, the source of his strength (Psalm 46:1). Remind him of the immeasurable power that is available to him through Christ (Ephesians 3:20). May he trust that You are equipping him to fight every battle. When he feels run down and burnt out, remind him that through Christ he has access to much MORE than his body and mind might tempt him to believe. May he have confidence in knowing that the same power that conquered death is alive in him!
Lord, I pray that Jeremy would find his confidence in you. Remind him that “if anyone has reasons to put confidence in the flesh, he has more” through Christ (Philippians 3:4). Don’t let him fall prey to grasping for confidence through other people, his job, his physical capabilities, or his know-how. Instead, give him confidence in Your truth and the calling he has received. Humble him to stand in reverence before You Lord. Build his confidence to live according to your word, above reproach, and unashamed of the gospel. Remove any insecurities or lies of “not good enough,” and replace them with the truth of who You say that he is. May he be affirmed and encouraged by Your Holy Spirit, the scriptures, his community, and his family.
Father God, I pray the full armor of protection over Jeremy. You are his “strength and [impenetrable] shield” may his heart “trust [with unwavering confidence] in You” (Psalm 28:7 AMP). Lead Jeremy not into temptation, but deliver him from all evil (Matthew 6:13). Keep his eyes, ears, and thoughts pure and protected from sin, attack, and the fallen world. Lord place on Jeremy’s head the helmet of salvation to guard his thoughts and mind in Christ. Place on his chest the breastplate of righteousness to guard his heart – the wellspring of life. Wrap around his waist the belt of truth to prevent any lies from creeping into his thoughts or heart, and keep him far from temptation. Put the sandals of peace on his feet to keep him walking bravely and courageously without fear or worry. Give him the shield of faith to trust in Your leading Lord, and the sword of the Spirit to fight against the fiery arrows of attack. Cover him with Your full protection and armor as he enters the battlefield today. In Jesus name I pray.
Lord show Jeremy how to lead our family in ways that resemble how You faithfully, courageously, and lovingly led the church. (Ephesians 5:25-29) Give him a clear understanding of the scriptures, and a keen discernment of Your Holy Spirit. May he feel respected and honored by me, so that his leadership would not be stifled or undermined. Reveal to him how he can become a better follower of You, while maturing in leadership of our family, and in the work You’ve called him to do. May he be known for his servant-leadership and his compassion towards those who look to him as an example.
Grow Jeremy “[spiritually mature] in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior” (2 Peter 3:18). May he be quick to filter his decisions through Your Word, and throw his decisions under Your authority. You are the God of clarity, not confusion. Endow Jeremy with good judgment, so that he can make wise everyday decisions. In the bigger decisions, may he discipline himself to be still before you in “quietness and trust” (Isaiah 30:15). Flood his heart and mind with peace, as an indicator that he is making decisions that are congruent with Your will. Don’t let him fall into a rut of deception, but give him a discerning spirit so that he can recall the scriptures as grounds for truth in all circumstances. Equip him to answer anyone who asks him to give the reason for the hope that he has (1 Peter 3:15). May he always include You in every decision he makes, so that he can trust You no matter the result.
Prince of peace, fill Jeremy with the peace that surpasses all understanding. Give him a calm confidence in Your ability to orchestrate his life through the power of his prayers. When he feels anxious or worried make it his first instinct to pray (1 Thessalonians 5:17). Lord, You are the Prince of Peace, and we know that we cannot have access to true peace without You. I pray that peace would saturate Jeremy’s mind, heart, and life.May his thankfulness cause the peace of Christ to rule in his heart (Colossians 3:15). Give him an uncanny ability to worship you in the midst of chaotic circumstance that might otherwise initiate complaining, stress, or anxiety. Remove any fear in his mind, and permeate his entire being with peace. Keep his mind steadfast on You, so that he may be in “perfect peace” (Isaiah 26:3). May his relationships with others be harmonious. Give him the ability to live peacefully with others as far as it depends on him (Romans 12:18). Let him “pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding” (Romans 14:19). May the Lord bless him and keep him; the Lord make his face shine on him and be gracious towards him; the Lord turn his face toward him and give him PEACE (Numbers 6:24-26).
Lord give Jeremy a clear mind that is willing and able to focus on You, and the thing that You set out for him to do and BE. As he unearths the unique calling that You have placed on his life, give him a willing heart. Show him how he can creatively live out the great commission in his job and workplace – his mission field. Give him the ability to “teach and proclaim the kingdom of God with all openness and boldness, unhindered and unrestrained” (Acts 28:31). I pray for his work to be skilled and successful (Proverbs 22:29), and that he would produce a harvest (Hebrews 12:1). I pray that he would bear much fruit (Matthew 7:16), and that his fruit would be eternal (John 15:6). May he live “worthy of the calling he has received” (Ephesians 4:1), and may he “run the race with endurance that is set before him,” so that at the end of his life he could say, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith!” (2 Timothy 4:7).
I challenge you to pray these prayers over your spouse this week. Double dog dare you to pray them out loud over your spouse at lease once. Yes, this might be intimidating if you don’t normally pray together, but JUST DO IT.
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