Guest post // Hello! My name is Samantha Binion and I am a 32-year-old, Jesus loving, wifey, mom to five, DIY-er from the teeny tiny town of Atwood, IL. My husband and I have been married for 13 years. I am currently a stay at home mom but one day soon I will be back to teaching elementary school. I love camping with my family, being involved in my church and up-cycling furniture, but being a wife and mom are my number one gigs.
Do you ever feel like you are drowning in day to day life while your marriage slowly gets pushed to the back burner? Like you are running on fumes and slowly losing sight of your husband, whom you were once inseparable from?
Where did the romance, passion, and butterflies disappear too?
Although your marriage will go through seasons of change throughout your life, it doesn’t mean that the feelings and connections have to be lost in the chaos of raising a family, work, and crazy schedules.
I married my best friend, my soul mate, my one and only at 19. We were so in love and inseparable. We started our adventure together as husband and wife so young. He worked nights to support us while I went to school. One month into marriage we bought our forever home. Three months in, we found out we were expecting our first precious baby. I graduated from college at 20 and had a baby the same week. Talk about a whirlwind! Our life together started off on the fast track and hasn’t slowed down yet. Fast forward to present day, I am now a 32-year-old stay at home mom to 5, 1 daughter and 4 boys and I’m still married to my best friend.
As you can imagine, day to day life can be overwhelming, stressful, and chaotically beautiful. Life is hard. Saying I’m tired is an understatement. Being mentally and physically exhausted can quickly become the norm. Taking time for myself is nearly impossible. And what about my marriage? Truthfully, it can quickly be lost in the hustle and bustle of our daily life. A hubby who works a swing shift, mixed with sports schedules, potty training, and cooking for 7 can be a mixture for disaster. Yep, that’s real life. That’s when I have to step back and breathe. I have to reevaluate my day, week, and year. I need to refocus my walk with God and my marriage. On the days where I feel like I am spiraling out of control, I lean deep into God with prayer, scripture and worship. I crank the music up and just let loose. I lean heavily into my husband and confess my feelings, my struggles, and my emotions.
Making your marriage a priority is key to surviving life’s demands. We have ridden the roller coaster of highs and lows over the last 12 years of marriage. We have survived the heartache of miscarriage, loss of loved ones, loss of a job, home renovations and a sick child. We have grown closer to God and matured as a couple because of these trials. We have also been beyond blessed to have experienced the joys of marriage, birth of babies, unforgettable family vacations, camping trips that you never want to end, and creating family traditions. The best part is that my marriage is stronger and more amazing today than it was in years past.
Here is what I have learned: You must rely on each other daily. Never lose sight of God, keep Him at the forefront of your marriage and family. Put your spouse before everyone else. Be intentional. Don’t lose sight of the things you once loved. Hold hands often. Kiss daily. Speak kindly and softly. Don’t give into the ways of the world. Guard your eyes and ears. Bite your tongue. Pray together. Laugh, give grace, and find joy. Compliment one another. Be intimate. Have sex often. Have date nights at home. Time alone is crucial. Stay up late to snuggle. Be faithful, forgiving, and compassionate. Discuss your future and your hearts desires. Pray for your spouse, children, and future children. Most of all, pray that God’s love is visible through the chaos.
You got this. Your best friend is by your side. Don’t let distance, schedules, finances, children, or emotions drive a wedge in your marriage.
Marriage and raising a family is difficult, exhausting, stressful, joyful, fun, and rewarding. Keep your eyes focused on God and never lose sight of the strong you are fighting for. The future only gets better!
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails” 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Just to give you a good laugh. This how I felt today and what my bio should say😂😂😂… Hello! My name is Samantha Binion. I am currently a hot mess of a wife and mom to five that can’t get her crap together today. On the daily, I am a chauffeur to my children’s events, such as youth group, track, soccer and baseball, all while my hubby works a crazy swing shift. Most days I feel like I am a maid, chef, laundry mat, and nanny but then I remember… I’m a beast of a mom and not all days are going to be pretty. Man I sure am blessed 😂😂😂