Today, I choose you, Andrea, to be my wife. I accept you as you are, and I offer my whole self in return.
For as long as I live
I will choose patience when the items on your list outnumber the hours in a day
I will choose kindness when you lose sight of what you love and value
I will not envy your gifts when they outshine my own but will strive to complement them and
I will not boast when my accomplishments appear to outshine yours
I will not let pride drive a wedge between us and
I will choose to honor you with my thoughts, words, and actions
I will not seek to put myself above you
I will not let my anger come swiftly or unjustly and
I will not let your faults build a case against your character
I will uphold truth and despise deceit
I will always protect you to the best of my ability but will give you space to fight your own battles
I will always trust that your purity will prevail
I will always hope for good to triumph over evil
I will always persevere, with these manifestations of love, through whatever we encounter
Until I take my last breath
Today, I choose you, Erik, to be my husband. I accept you as you are, and I offer my whole self in return.I promise to establish a habit of listening through your pauses so that I am able to hear you, understand you and support you.
I will value the way you see the world differently, grateful for the gift you give me when you share your imaginative daydreams and deepest questions. I recognize that intimacy is the reward of intentional conversation and I promise my choice will forever be to know you.
I will always speak honestly with you. Every word I offer will be trustworthy.
I will ask for help when I am overwhelmed.
I will tell you when I am hurt, sad or angry.
I will admit when I am wrong.
I will be quick to accept and to offer forgiveness.
When we disagree, I promise to put my respect for you above my desire to be right. I will not create a record of your wrongs or hold on to my anger. I will always assume the best about you and about our relationship.
Our marriage and the family we build will rank as my greatest treasure and my top priority. I will strive to consistently reserve the best of me as a gift for you.
When you are beside me or when distance separates us, I will choose words and actions that honor you. My faithfulness to you will be unwavering.
I will faithfully be yours in times of plenty and in times of want,
in times of health and in times of sickness,
in times of joy and in times of sorrow,
in times of triumph and in times of failure.
I promise to cherish you as an individual, a partner, and an equal, knowing that we do not complete, but complement each other.
I will cultivate our friendship and nurture our romance, believing that together we will build a life better than either of us could alone.
I choose you to be my partner in the adventure of establishing a family. Together, we will build on the traditions that have been passed down to us and create our own unique ways to show love to our children, to communicate as a family and to celebrate with all the people we love.
I promise to learn with you and grow with you, even as time and life change us both. I will love you and have faith in your love for me, through all our years and all that life will bring us.
Today in front of our Creator, our family and our friends, I make this covenant promise to you—my love and my fidelity are yours forever.
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3 Sentence Love Story
On October 15, 2005 while watching Mike Tyson highlight reels (yes it really is that romantic!) we shared a sweet first kiss. Then, we read books together, drank wine, went on hikes, took road trips, changed jobs, changed cities, became a part of each other’s families, laughed, cried and grew into best friends. Eleven years later, on that same date, we gathered friends and family, shared vows and sealed our covenant promise with our first kiss as husband and wife.