Kaitlin, Three years ago today, my life was normal. I had only heard your name a few days before. I didn’t think I wanted to be in a relationship with anyone. I didn’t think I’d want to make my self vulnerable again. I didn’t want to not be good enough for someone else. But on that first morning I saw you in the library and said hi, my life changed forever. I believe you can tell a lot about a person by their eyes. From the first moment I looked into yours, I’ve loved you more deeply than you can imagine. I saw your enthusiasm, your love for others, and determination that I wanted in my life. That first night I took you out for ice cream, I knew I had to have you in my life. It was the best decision I’ve ever made.
Leaving you for college was one of the hardest days of my life. Saying goodbye to you and my family all at once was the hardest thing I had to do. But despite how hard it was, I never doubted that you were the one for me. That feeling only grew whenever you decided to join me at OU. I’ll forever cherish the late night talks we had; about Africa, family, what we love about the world, what we want to change, who we wanted to be as a couple. No matter what the goal was, it was never just about you. You’ve selflessly shown me support, encouragement, and dedication even when I make mistakes. Most importantly, I’ve caught a glimpse of our Father’s love for us because of how you sacrificially love me. There is nobody else on this planet who I want standing across from me. There is nobody else I want beside me for the rest of my life. And there is nobody else I want to serve the Lord with as long as He allows us to.
I vow today before our friends and family to always love you.
I vow to serve, comfort, and hold you all our lives.
I vow to lead, respect, and honor you.
I vow to always point back to God for the good, and surrender on my knees to Him for the bad.
I promise to always have a vision for us, to not just let life fly into eternity, but to seize every second as one to show you my love, and the love our Father has for you.
I promise to laugh, cry, hug, and hold you for all of my days.
Most of all, I promise to remain with you everyday for the rest of my life.
In the good times and bad, through all the tears and laughs, I vow to give everything that I am.
On this day I say yes, and I will every morning I see that face I fell in love with all those years ago.
Trey, In the days after meeting you, you reflected Christ so evidently to me, which led to me discovering what that meant for my life having been saved so many years earlier yet never pursuing a relationship with Christ. In the weeks after meeting you, this revelation of seeing Christ produced a self-awareness I hadn’t experienced before. This awareness was one of my past because although I had seen Christ I had not yet been exposed to His character. It was in those first few months of having changed eyes for the world and for myself that I wept with guilt for how my life reflected worldliness, and in those moments you didn’t fail to represent Christ to me, holding me as I wept for what felt like days on end. Your strong arms holding up a fragile girl with tear stained cheeks painted our Father, who despite my naivety was all along the upholder of my broken self. Three years have since passed and I have begun to grasp the truth that relationships and marriages are not to glorify the individuals committing their lives to each other. That lesson was not an easy one, as it involved us both succumbing to the tendencies of the broken people that we are, failing each other, disappointing each other, hurting each other. The lesson was necessary though and one which we will continue to learn. The past three years with you have taught me that the purpose of a relationship is not to glorify each other, but in all of our insignificancies bring glory to Christ Jesus.
I vow to always love you.
And I vow to love you with tenderness. A tenderness that is parallel to that which you extended to me in the frame of time in which our relationship was hardly even established.
I vow to appreciate you, and everything you do for us and I vow to tell you with my words and show you with my actions.
I vow to not reply to your speech with empty nods but listen to you earnestly, reassuring you that each thought of your mind is as profound as I think it is.
I vow to focus on you.
And I vow that in the busiest of days I will slow down the quick pace of life and look at you. Not merely glance at you, but look at you.
I vow to never let our stock of Diet Coke and Reeses chocolates run low and I vow to bake pound cake as many times as it takes to make it as good as your mom does.
I vow to watch football with you, kiss you every time the favored team scores and celebrate with you when your team wins.
I vow to love you boldly, adventurously, and sincerely for always.
I vow to give you all that I am and to never half-heartedly pursue you.
I can assure that these promises are not empty but full of sincerity. But I know some days my mind and my heart may threaten to forget how to put “I Love You” into action. And so,
I vow that sometimes I will fail you.
I vow that sometimes I will fall short.
But in failures and shortcomings I vow that I will never stop loving you and I will never give up my attempt to show you how deeply rooted in my heart you are.
As difficult as it may be, I vow not to buy into false romanticism, saying things like “you complete me”, because you don’t.
In Christ I have already been made complete, the head over all.
So I vow not to attribute glory to you that only belongs to God.
To you and only you today I commit,
to you and only you I submit, with the attitude of Christ Jesus.
God loved me enough to give me you, and so I vow to you my last breath.
1 • 2 • 16
3 Sentence Love Story
Trey and I met in high school and have been together since. WE dated for three years, got engaged in Zimbabwe, Africa, and was married 4 months later at our home church. having gotten married at 20 years old, we aspire to beat the 50 percent everyone reminds us of through genuine PURSUIT of christ, and each other.