Many have messaged us on the story and origin of our commonly used phrase, Braid it.
Here, is that story.
January 4th, 2013. We were 2 years deep into our long distance relationship. We knew we loved each other, but long distance had numbed the feeling. After we met, Jeremy started to write poetry a lot. There is something about poetry that helps one realize the emotions they are feeling. Its like bringing what you can’t explain to life. “Poetry has a way of expressing the soul. Words flow naturally wen you are in love. And I couldn’t help myself.” – Jeremy
So, as we sent letters, they were often accompanied with one of Jeremy’s poems. Here is the poem of January 4th, 2013.
“To our future ahead
may it ever be met
Let us draw our compass in the hands of Christ
May no trial collect its due
Lord grant us the strength to pursue on through
May we braid it together, Christ you and I
And let us build upon this contagious love
our past behind may we never forget
(this photo was taken right before I read the poem)
The phrase “braid it” reminded us of a quote from our FAVORITE movie, Stand By Me. If you haven’t seen the movie go watch it after reading this post. It explains a lot about us. In the movie, 4 boys embark on a grand adventure down the railroad tracks looking for the body of a kid from their school that went missing. A phrase they often say in the movie as symbol of their brotherhood bond is, “skin it.” When Jeremy read the poem out loud, “braid it” reminded us of “skin it,” and the slogan of our love was born.
From this poem onward we tagged our relationship with the phrase #braidit. It was a reminder that successful relationships have a structure. And we wanted that structure.
Think about the structure of a braid, it has three strands. The third strand is what holds a braid together. Without it you would be left with a twist, which is easy unraveled. The third strand is the most important, and is imperative to keep all three intertwined.
So what are the three strands? For us it is:
“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”
This structure of a braid, paints the perfect picture of accountability within a relationship. Christ being the head, then the husband, and then the wife. Throughout scripture Christ’s love for us is made known through his, unconditional love, relentless pursuit, provision and protection, truth and guidance, mercy and grace. In the same way, (if the braid is in tact) the husband and wife both have access to that love. A love that gives more than what they could give on their own, “Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”
So many couples enter into marriage and become, “better than one,” but dismiss the accountability of the third strand (Christ) which prevents the breakage. This third strand makes it possible for love to grow stronger, deeper, and wider, with time. “And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. Ephesians3:18“
Marriage is inviting a third party into the relationship, Christ and all the love that comes with Him. That doesn’t dismiss the fact that braids still get frizzy and messy at times, but the braid of marriage will not unravel because it’s tied together by a promise that transcends circumstances, change, and feelings.
A solid marriage, we’ve found so far, is directly correlated to each persons communication of need and willingness to change. Change is inevitably one of two things. A person getting better, improving in their love, or a person getting worse in how they love. Christ (the third strand) is thee example of love, providing accountability that both parties can look to. Relationships can not function, to their full potential, without that third strand. they become a game of back and forth debatables, relying on either the man or women to create the standards of the relationship. We believe the standard has been made, and when you invite that standard into your relationship, you have room for exponential growth beyond ALL your previous capabilities.
Men, love your wife like Christ loved the church. He is our example, He is our standard.
Women, love your husbands and look to them with great respect.
If your marriage, or relationship is more of a twist, than a braid. We urge you to invite the stability and freedom of the third strand.
Jer & Auj