It was a Jimmy Evans podcast that blew my mind on the importance of having a vision in my marriage. The whole idea is that having a vision is having a purpose. It’s having a reason to get up in the morning and it’s working toward something. Having no vision can be frustrating and aimless.
Picture three ships at sea: the first ship has a crew with a vision to reach the Americas – that is their mission. So they wake up every morning eager to get to work. The second ship has no vision. They simply wake up, see which way the wind is blowing, and let what happens, happen. They make no measurable progress because there is no vision to measure progress against! How do you know if you’re being successful if you don’t know what you’re trying to accomplish? And then there’s the third ship, the one with the undecided crew. Half of the crew wants to get to the Americas and the other half doesn’t. You can imagine the conflict on that ship…
Having a vision is important for purpose, and agreeing on what that vision is, is just as vital. Every successful business, athlete, student, and sports team has a vision, so shouldn’t our marriages?!
Lack of vision can leave couples feeling frustrated, misunderstood, worried, or stressed. There is confusion about the purpose and direction they’re headed, so there is frustration because no measurable progress is being made.
The word “division” literally means having two separate visions… Fighting is typically initiated because of two separate visions. But when we have a collective vision we can rally around a goal, a mission, a vision. We can act and operate like a team trying to score on the same goal!
In light of this podcast/video (see below) Audrey and I have been discussing our vision for the year. It’s been a healthy experience in that we are forced to make decisions about what we want. This can be difficult, because saying yes to one thing, is inevitably saying no to something else… It is absolutely a refining process!
Once we said YES to a collective vision, it gave us a compass for how to spend our money, time, and resources in light of that vision.
Jimmy Evans promotes something he calls a vision retreat. It is something you do with your spouse once a year to reorientate your compass, agree on your vision, and establish a direction. It sounds amazing and is DEFFINITLY something Audrey and I are going to start implementing into our lives. (And potentially hosting, so you can too!;)
You can read more about what a vision retreat is here: About Vision Retreat.
I highly recommend watching this video where Jimmy talks all about vision in your marriage.
Spend some time this week discussing what your vision is. Pray that God would align your vision with His will.
“The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps.” Proverbs 16:9 (ESV)
Have you gotten your Navigator’s Council journal yet!